My blog at livejournal was very impersonal and the more personal posts were 'friends only' as I was wary of talking about my life on the world wide web. But I think this time around I will talk a little more about things that matter to me as a woman, this space will be henceforth be more personal yet open to public opinion.
I was reading 'The Compulsive Confessor's' musings on multiculturalism ( or inter-cultural relationships) and thought here I am in an intercultural marriage and yet I never think of it as such. Yes, marriage was a decision that I carefully mulled over as it was a life altering one but the differences of race, religion and life experiences were never obstacles to our union.
Having lived in the U.K for six years and having had family members who had married beyond racial lines were only factors that helped while making my decision. The primary reason was always the partner of my choice.We met and became friends and stayed that way until we realised that we could be much more and when we took that leap of faith it was like it was meant to be: he was the one for me and the person I could be myself with and now I cannot imagine what it would be like if we had not met.
We are different from the outside, yes, and we are different on the inside too - we are individuals with strong opinions and world views and we like to debate and argue. Life would be boring if we agreed all the time. But we adapt and grow together and that is the key. He balances my cynicism with his optimism and tempers my recklessness with caution and vice-versa. We switch sides and balance each other out. We squabble and then make up like best friends do.
We have had different life experiences and we learn from each other. I think universities are great levellers - they bring together people from diverse backgrounds and give them a common ground to build upon.
Och well, marriages are complex beasts and to make them work one needs to be in a mutually supportive and equal partnership with lots of love and kindness thrown in. So, happiness to all and one.
I'm out....
3 comments:
You said it beautifully, H. Marriages of all types need work, and must never be taken for granted. People have opinions about which ones are easier and safer; I disagree with each and every opinion.
Human relations are so complex. Only the ones where both parties constantly endeavor to make it work, can work.
Oh! And why am I calling you H? Coz you are hot. :D
:). You agree, I am pleased! You can call me H or whatever!
Post a Comment